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Is Love Really Essential to Marriage?

Love is Not in Marriage; Love is in you (People). Is Love Really Essential to Marriage? Asking ourselves to fall in love many times, always with the same person. We all have a childhood dream that when there is love, everything goes like silk, but the reality is that marriage requires a lot of compromise. The notion that "love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage" is still widespread, but the arguments against it are gaining strength. Addressing such arguments requires clarifying what we mean by profound love. The Recent Connection between Love and Marriage The older I get, the less time I want to spend with the part of the human race that didn't marry me. The prevailing ideal that passionate love is essential in marriage is actually recently new. I read her book on the history of marriage, Stephanie Coontz (2005) shows that this ideal became prevalent only about two centuries ago: "People have always fallen in love, and throughout the age...

Why the Joint Bank Account is a Must for Married Couples

Marriage advice from a Business Planner columnist: Have a joint bank account with your spouse. It's the easiest, most sensible way to manage day-to-day spending and saving, and it will save you trouble if your spouse dies before you. "My recommendation is to have a joint account and to run things through the joint account," says Kotun Ademola Muhammed, a Business planner and BDM Summitgoldbiz of Managing Alone: Your Trusted Advisors' Guide to Surviving the Death of Your Spouse. Here's what can happen when your spouse dies and you have separate accounts. You try to access money in the spouse's account to pay for household expenses, but find you're frozen out. "The banks are pretty strict," Mr. Kotun A.M said. "I have seen situations where people cannot get access to the money at all. Usually, the bank is waiting to see a probated will." Mr. Kotun A.M says that the process of satisfying the bank's need for proper documentation c...